Momentum Mastery

Happiness is a Choice: Learn How to Make it Yours Last Part

Hey there, fellow adventures! We live in a world where happiness is often seen as it is very far away from us and a distant goal. Today, guys, I have brought an amazing book by, Robert Holden “Be Happy” which offers you guys a very refreshing perspective, in this book you will get warmth, wisdom with amazing humor. It will show you guys that happiness is not something we can find, but this is something that is chosen.

In this article, we will discuss some amazing stories, examples, and one of the amazing practical exercises. You will also explore the inspiring knowledge that will give you the power to take control of your happiness, and you will be able to live a more fulfilling life. In this book, Robert Holden invites you guys to join him on a journey of self-discovery and happiness to get the momentum of your life. It also offers you guys a gentle reminder, that happiness is always within reach.


Let’s have a quick revision of the summary. In this book, “Be Happy” Robert Holden is giving you an amazing guidebook so that you will be able to choose happiness as a way of life. Honey, Robert Holden argues in his book that happiness is not something that can happen to us, but it is something that we can choose every day. In this book, he shared a powerful story of a woman who was diagnosed with cancer, and he discusses how she has chosen to focus on happiness instead of focusing on the circumstances she is facing. She said, “I realized that I had a choice: to be happy or to be unhappy. I chose to be happy.”

This story illustrates the book’s central message: happiness is a choice, and it’s always available to us. We have also talked about thoughts and beliefs In detail. We have also covered the present moment in detail in part one. This is not it my friend, because we have also talked about self-love and self-acceptance, which was the part of the summary in part one so if you want to know more about these things go and check out part one.


Honey, let’s revise the momentum again. It was the last topic of the summary, and we will discuss it again. Robert Holden emphasizes the importance of building momentum in your happiness journey. He writes in his book that, “Small steps can lead to big changes.” Always remember, that if you take a small step towards happiness each day, you will be able to build momentum and you will be able to make happiness a habit. This happiness is a habit of your life. He suggests to you guys that you should always celebrate your small wins and you should keep a happiness journal to track your progress.

Table of Content


Summary Revision

Exercise no.1

  • The Happiness Timeline
  • Objective
  • Instructions
  • Reflection Questions

Exercise no.2

  • The Gratitude Bridge
  • Objective
  • Instructions
  • Reflection Questions

Lesson 4: The Importance of Self-Love

  • The Power of Self-Acceptance
  • Practicing Self-Care
  • The Gift of Self-Compassion
  • Examples of Cultivating Self-Love

Lesson 5: Building Momentum

  • The Power of Small Steps
  • Celebrating Progress
  • The Snowball Effect
  • Examples of Building Momentum


Exercise no.1:

“The Happiness Timeline”

Honey, let’s start our third exercise and as this is the last part, we are going to do two exercises on the spot. The first one is the happiness timeline.


The objective of this exercise, as you have to reflect on your journey to happiness, you have to celebrate your progress and you have to give yourself some power for a fulfilling future.


Honey, first of all, you have to find a very quiet and comfortable spot to reflect.

Then my friend, imagine a timeline of your life. You have to start from your childhood to the present moment. Now visualize It as a straight line, a winding path, or a scenic journey. You can decide whatever represents your life’s journey.

Start for Happiness

Now, mark the significant events and experiences that stand out. You have to mark both of them as happy, and challenging ones. You can consider:

  • Childhood memories that brought joy
  • Achievements and accomplishments
  • Overcoming obstacles and challenges
  • Meaningful relationships and connections
  • Personal growth and learning moments

Visualization for Happiness

Honey, now you have to reflect on each marked moment:

  • What made it significant?
  • How did it shape you?
  • What strengths or resilience did you develop?
  • How did it impact your happiness and well-being?

Now, my friend, you have to identify the patterns, themes, or strengths that can emerge from your reflection:

  • Are there common values or passions that thread through your experiences?
  • Have you developed skills or talents that bring you joy?
  • Are there specific relationships or connections that have contributed to your happiness?

Writing Work for Happiness

Now, my friend, you have to write down the lessons you have learned and how you can apply them to your future. Like:

  • What wisdom have you gained from your experiences
  • How can you build on your strengths and accomplishments?
  • What goals and aspirations align with your values and passions?

It is the time for you guys to visualize your future timeline, imagining moments of happiness and fulfillment:

  • First, what dreams and goals do you want to achieve?
  • Second, what kind of relationships and connections do you want to nurture?
  • Lastly, what personal growth and learning experiences do you want to pursue?

Write down specific, actionable steps to achieve your goals and aspirations:

  • What small steps can you take today or this week?
  • What resources or support systems do you need to put in place?
  • How will you celebrate your progress and accomplishments along the way?

Reflection Questions

  • What are some pivotal moments that have shaped my journey to happiness?
  • How have I grown and learned from my experiences?
  • What strengths and resilience have I developed along the way?
  • What goals and dreams do I want to achieve in the next chapter of my life?
  • How can I continue to cultivate happiness and fulfillment moving forward?

Honey, this exercise will help you guys to reflect on your journey. You would be able to celebrate your progress. You guys can give yourself some power through this exercise for a fulfilling future. If you focus on your strengths, accomplishments, and goals, you can build confidence and momentum. You would be able to live a more happy and meaningful life.

Exercise no.2:

“The Gratitude Bridge”


I need the objective you have to connect with the power of gratitude to overcome the challenges. You also have to cultivate the power of gratitude because you have to cultivate happiness and develop a resilient mindset.

Connect with the power of gratitude to overcome obstacles, cultivate happiness, and develop a resilient mindset.


Honey, at the very beginning, you have to find a quiet and comfortable spot to reflect.

Now you have to imagine a bridge that represents your journey to happiness. Visualize it in detail, and consider its length, with, material and surroundings.

Now you guys identify the specific challenge, you are currently facing. It could be a personal struggle, a difficult situation or a goal you are working towards it could be anything.

Now, my friend visualizes this challenge as a barrier on the bridge, which is blocking your path toward happiness.

Now, my friend, you have to imagine a gratitude bridge that is connecting you guys to the other side of the challenge. This brush is made above steps, and each step represents an aspect of gratitude. Like:

Start from the beginning of the bridge, and write down something you are grateful for on each of the steps.

Step 1: A supportive friend or family member who encourages you.

Step 2: A skill or strength that will help you overcome the challenge (e.g., problem-solving, communication, or resilience).

Step 3: A past success or accomplishment that gives you confidence and motivation.

Step 4: A lesson learned from a previous challenge that has helped you grow.

Step 5: A simple pleasure or joy in life that brings you happiness (e.g., nature, music, or laughter).

Honey, as you cross the bridge, you have to reflect on how gratitude can give you the powers to:

Approach challenges with a positive mindset.

Build resilience and coping skills.

Develop a growth mindset and learn from experiences.

Appreciate the good things in life and find joy in everyday moments.

My friend, once you have already crossed the bridge. Take a moment to reflect on your journey. Write down any knowledge or actions to integrate gratitude into your daily life. Such as:

  • Starting a gratitude journal.
  • Sharing gratitude with others through thank-you notes or appreciation messages.
  • Incorporating gratitude practices into your daily routine, like meditation or reflection.

Reflection Questions:

  • How does gratitude help me approach challenges differently?
  • What are some ways I can practice gratitude regularly to cultivate happiness and resilience?
  • How can I share my gratitude with others to strengthen relationships and build a support network?
  • What are some obstacles or challenges that I can overcome by applying the power of gratitude?

You guys trust me if you follow this exercise, you will be able to develop a deeper understanding of gratitude’s impact on your life. Lastly, you would also be able to cultivate a resilient mindset to overcome the challenges. You would also be able to achieve happiness in your life.

Lesson 4: The Importance of Self-Love for Happiness

Holden emphasizes the crucial role of self-love in achieving happiness. He encourages you guys to cultivate a deep and unconditional love for yourselves, just as you are. Self-love is not selfish, but rather important for your well-being and happiness.

The Power of Self-Acceptance for Happiness

Self-acceptance is a fundamental aspect of self-love. Holden encourages you guys to welcome your strengths and weaknesses and to accept yourselves exactly as you are. For instance, instead of focusing on your flaws, choose to focus on your positive qualities and accomplishments. Instead of dwelling on past mistakes, choose to learn from them and move forward with self-compassion.

Practicing Self-Care for Happiness

Self-care is another essential aspect of self-love. Holden encourages us to prioritize our own needs and take care of our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. For example, instead of neglecting your own needs to care for others, choose to prioritize self-care and make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Instead of depriving yourselves of pleasure, choose to indulge in activities that bring us joy and happiness.

The Gift of Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is a powerful expression of self-love. Holden encourages you guys to treat yourselves with kindness, understanding, and patience. For instance, instead of beating yourselves up over mistakes, choose to offer yourselves understanding and support. Instead of dwelling on your shortcomings, choose to focus on your strengths and accomplishments.

By cultivating self-love, you guys will be able to develop a more positive and compassionate relationship with yourselves. You guys can also learn to accept yourselves exactly as you are and to prioritize your own needs and well-being. With self-love, honey, you can find greater happiness, peace, and fulfillment in life.

Lesson 5: Building Momentum for Happiness

Holden emphasizes the importance of building momentum in your happiness journey. He encourages you guys to take small steps towards happiness every day and to celebrate our progress along the way. By building momentum, you will be able to create a snowball effect that will lead you guys toward greater happiness and fulfillment.

The Power of Small Steps for Happiness

Small steps may seem insignificant on their own, but they can add up to make a big difference in your life. Holden encourages you guys to take small actions toward happiness every day, such as practicing gratitude, meditation, or self-care. For example, instead of trying to make drastic changes all at once, choose to start with small, manageable steps like taking a few deep breaths each morning or writing down three things you’re grateful for each day.

By building momentum, you guys can create a powerful force that can drive you guys towards happiness and fulfillment. You guys can also learn to take small steps towards your goals, celebrate your progress, and keep moving forward even in the face of challenges.

In conclusion, “Be Happy” by Robert Holden offers you guys an amazing guide to choosing happiness as a way of life. By managing your thoughts, living in the present, practicing self-love, and building momentum, you can choose happiness every day. As Holden writes, “Happiness is a choice, and it’s always available to us.”

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